by Candice M
Have you ever stared at yourself in the mirror, running your hands through your curls, coils, or kinks, and thought, “I think I’m done”? The detangling, the dryness, the styling, the endless trial-and-error with products—it all becomes exhausting. Before you know it, you’re reminiscing about the days of smooth, straight strands, maybe even entertaining the idea of returning to that old familiar friend: the creamy crack (aka the relaxer). And let’s not even talk about wash day. You already know—it’s not a quick task. It’s an all-day event. From pre-pooing, shampooing, deep conditioning, detangling, twisting, to styling, it feels never-ending. Hours pass, water drips down your arms, hair is everywhere, your shoulders ache, and by the time you’re halfway through, you’re thinking, “This is it. I can’t do this anymore.” It’s overwhelming. It feels like no matter how much effort you put in, your hair always demands more. Trust me, you’re not alone. Almost everyone on the natural hair journey has reached that point where they wonder if this is really for them—and that’s perfectly okay.
But here’s the thing—no matter what decision you make, whether you stick with your natural curls or decide to relax your hair, the most important factor should always be the health of your hair. Natural hair is powerful, beautiful, and unique, but let’s not pretend it doesn’t require patience and serious care. When everything is working, your twist-outs are on point, your curls are juicy, and your scalp feels great. But when it’s not? It’s easy to feel defeated. Natural hair doesn’t automatically mean healthy hair. Without the right hydration, trimming, protective styling, and products tailored to your hair, it can struggle like any other hair type. Still, after all the hours spent detangling and deep conditioning, seeing your curls spring back and your coils do their thing reminds you why you love them in the first place.
On the flip side, relaxers can seem like the shortcut to sleek, manageable hair. Less detangling, less shrinkage, less daily fuss—it’s tempting. But relaxed hair comes with its own responsibilities: scalp care, proper maintenance, avoiding over-processing. Whether natural or relaxed, healthy hair takes work. It takes love and intention. So no matter what you choose—natural or relaxed—it’s YOUR decision. It’s your hair. It’s your crown. The goal is not to fit into anyone’s standards or trends but to have healthy, thriving hair that makes you feel confident. Forget the pressure, forget the comparison, and choose what works best for you, all while treating your hair with patience and care.
Remember, if you’re feeling down and need support during your hair journey, whether relaxed or natural, please reach out to us. We’re here for you and will connect you with the right people who can help if we can’t.
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